13 Ways To Deal With Toxic People At Work
You know what we are talking about. That nitpicking, gossipy, mean or otherwise toxic person you just can’t seem to escape at work. You don’t get to choose people at work. This is kind of sad considering the huge impact that they can have on your working life. If a coworker, a boss or even a client is difficult or even toxic, it can be a real challenge. You can’t escape these people. They are a part of your everyday routine. However, dealing with toxic people at work can be more difficult than dealing with them in our personal lives.
In our personal lives, we can choose people to stay in touch with. But at work, if you come across toxic people, you don’t have any choice but to work with them. We are forced to see them forty hours a week and to work with them daily or on a project basis. Even if you don’t work directly with them, their presence can physically or emotionally impact you.
There are some things you can do to help you cope up with toxic people at work. Here goes.
Take good care of yourself
When you are dealing with a toxic person, try and be as professional as possible. Don’t get started and argue about the last rumor they spread about you. Act as if you are not aware of any gossip around the office.
If you are positive and confident about yourself, you will be in a position to handle whatever comes your way. The better you feel, the easier it will be to deal with tough people without letting them get under your skin.
Generally, it is healthy to have personal boundaries at work. But, it is especially true when you are dealing with toxic people. We know that you are forced to work with them on a regular basis. But that doesn’t mean that you cannot protect yourself from them.
Disassociate yourself a little. Intentionally decide to keep an emotional distance from these challenging people. When you interact, do not fully open up. You should still be friendly and positive, but still a little removed.
Let Them Act Out
You are given a mutual employment with the toxic person. You cannot completely block them out. This is a person you need to cooperate with at some level. It’s not like a toxic friend you cut all your strings with.
Let them speak and share their ideas even if they sound off base and mean. You don’t want to be the toxic one who doesn’t listen, right? Give these people the opportunity to have their say. If this let the others see how toxic the person is, bonus.
The best way to counter toxic and soul-sucking people is to surround yourself with positive people. Uplifting people is a great counterbalance to toxicity. Make a conscious decision to spend more time with happy, fun, constructive people at work.
Bear in mind, when you are thinking or telling yourself negative things, you just might echo the things the toxic person has told you before. Reframe these bits into positives.
Put Your Foot Down
Know your boundaries and make sure they are clear to the people around you. If the toxic person behaves right past the annoying line, becomes abusive and is inappropriate for a professional settling, make a complaint.
Don’t allow it to become personal. But you should not complain about every small annoying thing in the company. Keep it professional and be clear about which office rules they are breaking, and how it affects the workplace as a whole.
Stop Giving Your Headspace
Throw that person out of your head. You cannot control how people react but you have 100 percent control over how you react.
They are going to do what they are going to do, but you don’t have to get upset about it.
Realize, They Are Not Worried About You
Difficult people often blame everyone else but themselves when the problem arises. That is a big part of the problem. They manipulate people in a way that even if you don’t make mistakes, people think you are at fault.
You might think that you can talk to them and try to express how their behavior is impacting you. But it won’t do any good. They don’t care about how it affects you. They are only worried about themselves. So don’t waste your time and energy trying to have a conversation with them.
Focus On Yourself
Don’t get dragged down by irrational folks at work. Focus on your goals and targets and not on the people. Maintain your own emotional and mental condition and do not get carried away by toxic people’s mentality.
Do not try to shift a toxic person’s way of thinking or behaving. Don’t get pulled down by the chaos. You won’t be any good to anyone if you yourself sink into the toxic mentality.
Distance Yourself Physically
Behaviour is contagious. You adapt to people’s behavior once you start spending time with them. Especially when it’s forty hours a week. In this case, being around a negative, miserable or unstable person can start to rub off.
Before you know, you start to feel some of those ways yourself. So, if possible, try and distance yourself from this person as much as you can. This can make a huge difference in the way you work and boosts up your productivity.
Meditation is the key
Research has proven that meditation is useful in cutting down negative energy. It also helps in reducing stress. Additionally, meditation also has many more health benefits.
Meditating regularly helps you ignore negative thoughts and focus on what is good for you.
Stop paying attention
Toxic people often blabber nonsense about those around them. People joining them are either toxic themselves or are craving for gossip. Mostly, they talk about people who don’t join their gossip sessions. It could be you, it could be your boss, it could be anybody.
Such people are cowards. They don’t have the courage to say the same thing on your face. And when they get into trouble, they flip. You really don’t need to be friends with such fake people. Keep it professional and let them be.
Focus on solutions
When a problem statement is given to you, your only focus should be finding ways to solve it. Think about what you are going to do to move the situation forward.
You won’t do yourselves any favours by dwelling.Train yourselves to think about solutions and not problems. Plan your response, and then move on.
When the day is done, toxicity is done
You heard it right. When the day is done, get the toxic people at work out of your head. Don’t be obsessed about the situation. It will only make things worse. Get a good night’s sleep and show up fresh to work the next day.
The other people are going to do what they want to do. This does not have to upset you. Always remember, you are way beyond the capacity of judgment of petty people.